A good mum or a bad mum?

I'm struggling with the term "you're a good mum". How do you know? Can you measure it? Is it comparable to other mums?

How do I define a good mum? I have no clue. I guess you don't know until the child is grown up so you can get an overall picture of the influence you have been in that child's life.

Can you be a good mum even though you have bad mum moments? When you get too overwhelmed or all your buttons have been pushed and you end up loosing your cool? Does that mean you have been a bad mum that day or does it weigh up at the end of the day. Good moments versus bad moments. Is that what defines what type of mother I am?

To me I'd rather be a present mum or involved mum or affectionate mum or mamabear mum or all of the above. I think there's pros and cons with every decision or approach I take throughout the day in various situations, but I have to be comfortable that I made the best decision I could at that point in time. And even if I look back at it later and think "what on earth was I thinking", try to be understanding of the circumstances and emotions that I was dealing with at that particular time.

Good mum or bad mum?! Is that even a thing or are we just mums?

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