Crying to sleep

I have seen a few written words lately that it's wrong to let your baby cry before they go to sleep. So instead they've found solutions like feed them to sleep, baby sleeping on them at all times or sleeping in the pram / car.

I chose to have Lance sleep by himself from 6 weeks old. And he was happy with that. Sure there are times when he cries himself to sleep but it's not because he's alone. It's because he's trying to fight the sleep. And the times when I have caved in or let the guilt feelings that I've accrued from reading all these things take over, it has prolonged the process instead of helping it. Every time I gave him cuddles or any attention, it was like adding fuel to the fire.

But because he's used to falling asleep when he's alone, for us it works best to watch him on the monitor and only go in if it's needed. The few times we have taken him through to our bed because he's been sick or whatever, he won't get comfy and settle at all so I end up putting him back in his cot and he's usually asleep again in no time.

Besides I would not get anything done if I had to be with him through naptimes and bedtimes. I love having that time to unwind, get a shower and get dinner made and other housework done. And that gives me more time to spend with Lance when he's awake.

So if I gain that and Lance still gets a good sleep, what harm does a bit of whining do?

I am tired of people having opinions about this and making people feel guilty about it, because every child and every relationship is different and the mummy knows her baby best. If she asks for suggestions that is one thing. But you can't say this is wrong and this is right, cause your not in her shoes.

Everyone is entitled to an opinion, but it's not your right to force it on to anyone else. We all learn as we go! Support each other and we can all be the best mummies we can be.

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