The first year I was on maternity leave I didn't really think about this much. But now when I'm officially a stay at home mum the pressure is on to make sure that Lance learns everything he would normally learn at nursery.
It's now my job to make sure he gets to explore and learn. When I think about it like that it feels like a huge task and responsibility. That it's up to me to make sure he's stimulated and that I bring out his strength so he can become a confident wee boy. I have a tendency to expect the very best of myself and this is no different. I feel like Lance will reflect how good of a mum I am by how well he's doing in his development.
Even writing it I get disappointed in myself for seeing it like that. I know in my head that it's totally irrational. Lance will only learn if he wants to and feel ready to learn something. And what I should be looking at is that he's a well-nurished and happy boy and feel secure in who he is.
So I've come up with a compromise for myself. As long as I do at least one thing/activity everyday where Lance has a chance to explore and learn then I can feel like I've fulfilled my task. Whether it's drawing, painting, singing, dancing, swimming or whatever we decide I'm going to be happy with that.
New focus, new day!
Xx
Don't forget he learns ever so much when taking part in daily tasks like baking , cooking a.s.o. Love from your mum's cousin Eva xxx
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